Listen or Lose It, I Get To Choose It

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I wanted to act like a five year old.

But I didn’t.

I wanted to kick some proverbial butt by raising my voice.

But I bit my tongue.

I wanted to lash out but somehow I demonstrated self-control.

Since “supremo self-controlo” doesn’t happen for me 100% of the time I gave serious thought as to what went right this time. I was on my little, brown couch the next morning thanking Him for family time the night before. My journal read,

“Thank you God for—— The. Best. Family. Night. Ever.”

As I reflected on our wonderful evening I couldn’t help but consider how close it came to going the other way.

Supper was nearing a finish and I was trying desperately to round up the crew. Hot items were becoming cold items as I lovingly invited…

politely requested….

strongly encouraged

firmly demanded

and finally, frantically forced

peeps to the dinner table.



I can’t remember what exchange occurred as we neared the table but my family was dangerously close to a verbal eruption of frustration and contempt that would have outdone Mt. St. Helen’s.

And then the miracle happened.

I made my mind captive to Christ.

I didn’t feel like it doing it at the time. In fact, quite the opposite.

Mental note: “Obeying the voice I hear in my head may not be what I feel like doing.”

Honestly, I’m surprised I even heard it. The Holy Spirit speaks in such soft tones.

Mental note: “Keeping my mouth shut helps me keep my ears (especially the ears of my heart) open.”

And then I did the thing I wish I did more…

I listened and obeyed.

The following verse popped into my head:

“A wise woman builds hers house, while a foolish one tears it down with her own hands.” Proverbs 14:1

In a flash, I imagined what tone our family meal would take if I barked (or submitted to the temptation to take my hot dinner to my room and eat by myself.) (Told you I wanted to act like a five year old.)

God gave me a vision for what the evening could look like if I acted on my impulsive urge to share my frustration in a not-so-Christ-like manner. I’m pretty sure my mother would have called the moment a true DoAhead.

I bit my tongue. I ate my meal at the table. And before long, what seemed to be an insurmountable moment of exasperation faded. Soon, vision clouded by steam from my hot temper saw a very different sight.

  • Sharpened wits and tickled funny bones during lively supper discussion.
  • Teamwork and rivalry elicited during kitchen cleanup.
  • Shared laughter from the pile of limbs protruding from a “family smash” on the living room floor.

I could go on but you get the point.

I’m not trying to make myself all important by implying that an angry outburst on my part would have ruined an entire evening. I suspect one way or another we would have gotten through it.

BUT…in the still of this morning a smile plays on my lips as I think about everything that brought us such joy last night.

Thank God I listened.

Thank God I obeyed.

Help me Lord to do it again, and again and again.

My prayer for each of us this week will be this,

“We use our powerful God-tools for smashing warped philosophies, tearing down barriers erected against the truth of God, fitting every loose thought and emotion and impulse into the structure of life shaped by Christ. Our tools are ready at hand for clearing the ground of every obstruction and building lives of obedience into maturity.” 2 Cor. 10:5 MSG

We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ…” 2 Cor 10:5 ESV

And don’t forget…

Angie Ryg is hosting Inspire Me Monday today!

These lovely ladies (including your DoAhead friend) will be co-hosting with Angie: Denise J. Hughes and Anita Strawn de Ojeda. Below are your  1-2-3′s for linking up and living life inspired!

1. Link up an inspirational post from the previous week (just one please.)
2. Visit two other contributors (especially the person who linked up right before you) and leave an encouraging comment.
3. Share the inspiration three ways…you can tweet, share a post on Facebook, Pin-It, Instagram-It, WHATEVER form of social media you choose…just SHARE!

Your DoAhead Friend,


  1. Cindy, were you in my house and head today??? Unfortunately, I had my outburst! Thankfully my daughter gave me grace.

  2. Oh, you’ve touched a raw nerve with this one, my friend! I HATE it when the food gets cold. I enjoy eating HOT food (spicy food, too). Thank you for the advice on listening to the Holy Spirit instead of letting my temper turn the meal from hot to sour!

  3. I really enjoyed this! Thanks for the reminder that I need to keep my mouth shut in order for the ears of my heart to open!

  4. I think we can all relate to that crossroads moment where life can go in a positive direction or a negative one. Thanks for such an honest, fun and insightful reminder. <3 I choose positive.

  5. Cindy! You wrote this just for me (even though you didn’t know that. So how cool is that? 😉 ) We are soul sisters in more than one way…I’m just saying. And you used my one word for the year “submit”…and oh, how I need to do this more. Be quiet enough (yeah…) to hear the nudge from the Holy Spirit and then smart enough to heed His advice. That verse is going to be printed and put on my wall…and needs to be on my forehead. How I long to be a wise woman and not tear down my home…thank you for this. I’m glad I’m not alone and I love your wit. You are my kind of gal. 😉 xoxo

    • Submit…a five letter word that sometimes feels like a four letter word. Another reason why I need so much help focusing less on what I feel and more on what Christ would have me think! Grateful I get to do it with sisters like YOU! 🙂


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